NEED HELP..this is long, and i need ur advice on how to handle this?

Well when he calls you will have a gut reaction either to pick up or not. I would not pick up because you told him personaly to keep the door unlocked. It is his own loss and do what your heart desires. You cant have people to tell you what to do when it involves family because not many people will know. Talk to your friends and other people inn your family and you will know the answer!!